We are so sorry to hear about your former love's 'darkness' and the pain it has undoubtedly caused you both. It sounds like you have learned a lot and have become stronger in the process of grieving and healing. Maybe that is a gift in itself? How blessed you both are to have felt deep love even if for a short time. Perhaps the love you gave him did have impact beyond what you can see now in this moment. Your love is like a beacon of light and he is being thrashed by the waves of the high seas. Maybe someday the memory of your steadfast love will help him find his way. We wish you all the best in finding answers to your questions. Our healing thoughts are with you.